Covert Abuse

I’ve never thought of my ex as abusive. Then readers tell me they recognize their (very much abusive) spouses in my descriptions of my ex. And I wonder. I read a story in the paper about a domestic murder in the county where my ex and I lived and I always half expect to seeContinue reading “Covert Abuse”

I Used to Judge

I used to judge. I’m not proud of it. But I used to judge those who stayed in abusive relationships. I criticized the victim for staying put while exclaiming that, were I ever to find myself in a similar situation, I would leave immediately. It always seemed so clear to me. So cut and dry.Continue reading “I Used to Judge”