Anger Deflation

My biggest stumbling block was (and at times, continues to be) anger.  I could not get past the deliberate nature of what he had done.  Holding me, telling me how much he loved me and would miss me while his bride’s ring sat in his car, ready to be placed on her finger within theContinue reading “Anger Deflation”

I Can’t, I Won’t, I Don’t and I’ll Never

  I really did have a great marriage.  In retrospect, though, I’ve realized that he never really challenged me.  I am not saying that as a dig against him, or claiming that the responsibility was his, it is just how it was.  I could easily say “I can’t, I won’t, I don’t or I’ll never”Continue reading “I Can’t, I Won’t, I Don’t and I’ll Never”

Softness Isn’t Just for Selling Tissues

When I was a toddler, I used to try to walk through the sliding glass door.  Repeatedly.  The coffee table was simply an apparition that should bend to my will and allow me passage.  Even the bulk of the couch was no match for my will; I assumed that it too could be bested ifContinue reading “Softness Isn’t Just for Selling Tissues”

The First Tears of the New Year…

and I am happy to report that they are tears of relief.  Validation.  Gratitude. What prompted these tears, you ask? A letter and check in the mail from none other than the IRS.  Along with his other deceptions, my ex-husband was apparently dishonest on taxes, filing different information that what I was shown. I firstContinue reading “The First Tears of the New Year…”