How to Maintain Your Independence in a Marriage

When I first married at the age of twenty-two, I was happy to trade in my independence for what I thought was a guarantee of partnership and togetherness. By exchanging “me” for “we,” I knew that I was making the promise to consider his opinions and needs when making decisions and that I was committingContinue reading “How to Maintain Your Independence in a Marriage”

18 Steps to Financial Independence During and After Divorce

It is not uncommon for divorce to initiate a financial crisis. The process itself is expensive. There are real and often high costs associated with splitting a life and creating two households. Health expenses may increase along with your (and possibly your children’s) stress levels. And that’s all assuming that your ex didn’t play dirtyContinue reading “18 Steps to Financial Independence During and After Divorce”

Accept Help. Don’t Expect Help.

I’ve never been very good when it comes to accepting help. I used to see it as a weakness to allow others to come to my aid. My “I can do it myself” attitude shone through even as a toddler when I would use some random object as a tool to allow me to turn onContinue reading “Accept Help. Don’t Expect Help.”

Damsel In Distress

I met my dear friend and her three year old daughter at the Children’s Museum this morning.  Her daughter, we’ll call her Kayla, is an absolute delight, even for those like me who are prone to hives when surrounded by too many of the younger set.  She is in exactly the 50th percentile in heightContinue reading “Damsel In Distress”