Taking the Long View

Yesterday was a big day for me. After two decades of carrying the burden, I finally paid off the last of my student loans. I have to say, I was a little disappointed in Discover’s response to the zero balance. I wasn’t expecting anything too major, maybe just some balloons dropping down from the ceiling,Continue reading “Taking the Long View”

Shame: The Silent Relationship Killer

Is shame at the root of your relationship problems? In most discussions of the common relationship killers, the usual suspects are named: infidelity, finances, addiction, abuse, changes in external demands, or a growing distance between the partners. Yet, there is a silent relationship killer that often lurks underneath those commonly listed reasons and is aContinue reading “Shame: The Silent Relationship Killer”

18 Steps to Financial Independence During and After Divorce

It is not uncommon for divorce to initiate a financial crisis. The process itself is expensive. There are real and often high costs associated with splitting a life and creating two households. Health expenses may increase along with your (and possibly your children’s) stress levels. And that’s all assuming that your ex didn’t play dirtyContinue reading “18 Steps to Financial Independence During and After Divorce”

Do As I Say

Do as I say. Not as I do. I talk about how whatever we nurture, grows. I discuss starting with the end in mind yet still starting at the beginning. I believe in the power of intention to drive our attention and, ultimately, our outcomes. I say these things. But in one area of myContinue reading “Do As I Say”