Signs That You Need to Strengthen Your Boundaries

I wish there was a class in high school that taught people about the importance of setting and maintaining boundaries in personal relationships. Unfortunately, the powers-that-be decided that learning the […]

Refuse to Be a Victim

“Let me introduce you to the victim advocate,” offered the policeman who had arrested my husband the day before.   I stopped short. That was the first time that word […]

Changing the Reflection in the Mirror

On the day after I was left, I looked in the mirror. I saw a woman who had been discarded. Thoughtlessly thrown away like some worn-out or unfashionable sneakers. Good […]

Online Dating for Dogs…Again

Last winter, after the sudden and traumatic loss of our beloved Tiger, we began an earnest online search for a new companion. I immediately recognized the parallels between online dating […]

Are You Writing Your To-Be List?

I would wager that barely a day goes by where you are not at least partially driven by a to-do list. Whether scribbled on a slip of paper, stored neatly […]

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When Gratitude is Your Wrapping Paper

When gratitude is your wrapping paper, everything is a gift.   If someone had told me ten years ago that I would ever be grateful for my tsunami divorce, I […]

Forgiving Yourself

I’ve done some dumb things.  Some things I’m not proud of. And some that I’m embarrassed about.   I’ve made bad decisions. Followed by worse ones. And held tightly to […]

Marriage is Not a Test

Marriage is not a test. I lived. I loved. I lost. But I didn’t fail. Society makes assumptions about those who are divorced. Maybe we lack the fortitude to persist […]

Past, Meet Present

Well, that was weird. The letter was on the top of the stack in the mailbox. It was a thick envelope, formal looking. Through the window, I read my old […]

Five Damaging Divorce Stereotypes

Those that have not personally experienced divorce have no shortage of judgements and opinions. These are some of the more common damaging divorce stereotypes that you may encounter –   […]

The Pitch-Black Room

Heartbreak is a pitch-black room. At first, you’re disoriented. Confused. How did the familiar world become replaced by this sarcophagus of grief? There are no windows. No doors. Only darkness. […]