The Life You Had is Gone

"The life you had is gone." I would tell myself as a lament and in an attempt to force acceptance. "You now have the opportunity to create a new life." I would continue, in a hope that optimism also operated on the "fake it until you make it" principle. "You can now build a life … Continue reading The Life You Had is Gone

These Are the Dogs of Our Lives

I put up a request on my Facebook page last week for people to share pictures of the pets that supported them through divorce. The submissions were equal parts heartwarming and heartbreaking and throughout, it was extremely clear how important our pets are to our mental health. My favorite pictures were the ones that demonstrated … Continue reading These Are the Dogs of Our Lives

Love Testing

Love testing. It's one of the reasons that teenagers are difficult to deal with. Before they take the leap out into the adult world, they want the security that comes from knowing that you love them unconditionally. Your words and prior actions are often not sufficient for these temperamental creatures. They want reassurances. They want … Continue reading Love Testing

An Open Letter to Those Who Have Been Ghosted by a Partner

I see you. I know that right now you're feeling insignificant and discarded. I see you standing there in utter shock, struggling to process how everything changed in an instant. The "before" and "after" alternately body slamming you with the brutal reality. I see you because I was you. I hear you. I know that … Continue reading An Open Letter to Those Who Have Been Ghosted by a Partner

Taking Responsibility: How to Tell When It’s Your Stuff to Own

It can be challenging to determine when something falls on somebody else's shoulders and when it it is ultimately your responsibility to bear. Here are four ways to tell if it's your stuff to own -   1 - A pattern keeps repeating. When I first started casually dating post-divorce, I had guys start to … Continue reading Taking Responsibility: How to Tell When It’s Your Stuff to Own