It is easier to assume a protective stance than it is to trust that you can relax out of it. Just over a year ago, we were advised, that for the safety of all, we should makes our worlds small. “No problem,” I thought, ” I can do small.” Almost 12 years ago, IContinue reading “Learning to Trust Again”
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It’s Not You, It’s Them: 10 Signs You’re NOT the Reason They Cheated
Even though our heads know we’re not the reason they cheated, sometimes our hearts can get confused. We wonder why we weren’t enough for them. We hear their words blaming us for making them vulnerable to an affair. And we even face accusations from others, accusing us of doing (or not doing) something that causedContinue reading “It’s Not You, It’s Them: 10 Signs You’re NOT the Reason They Cheated”
How Could They Move On So Quickly?
My ex-husband certainly wasted no time. He didn’t even bother filing for divorce before he married his second (I’m assuming here; there could have been others) wife. Among all of the myriad thoughts that crashed around my mind in the aftermath of the discovery, one kept popping back up to the surface, “How could heContinue reading “How Could They Move On So Quickly?”
How to Ease the Torment of Infidelity
Finding out that your partner has cheated is a special kind of hell. From the incessant questions that plague your uneasy mind to the sense of rejection and unworthiness, an affair causes pain like no other. It was only later, once I had gained some perspective on that period in my own life, when IContinue reading “How to Ease the Torment of Infidelity”