The affair has been uncovered. The decision has been made to try to save the relationship. There’s a constant tension though – the one who has been betrayed feels the need to talk about it all of the time (“I want you to understand the pain you have put me through”) and the one whoContinue reading “After the Affair: How Much Should You Talk About It?”
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The 5 Types of Apologies Cheaters Use
They’re been caught cheating. Or, they decided to come clean about the affair. Some of the first words out of their mouth are, “I’m sorry.“ You want desperately to believe those words, to believe that they feel true remorse for the pain they have caused you. Yet, past event shave also proven to you thatContinue reading “The 5 Types of Apologies Cheaters Use”
Why I’m Not Anti-Divorce (Even Though I Hate It)
Divorce was the last thing I ever wanted in my first marriage. Yet, in hindsight, I wish that my husband had asked for a divorce. Because a divorce would have far easier – and more honest –Â than what transpired. If he had asked for a divorce, I would have been gutted. There isContinue reading “Why I’m Not Anti-Divorce (Even Though I Hate It)”
Forcing the End: Cheating as an Exit Strategy
People cheat for a large variety of reasons. In many of those cases, the cheater wants the affair partner(s) and they still want the marriage, a sort of one-sided renegotiation of the wedding vows. Yet in other cases, what the cheater really wants is out of the marriage and the affair is simply a wayContinue reading “Forcing the End: Cheating as an Exit Strategy”