10 Contradictory Qualities of a Good Marriage

It is often said that marriage is a balancing act. It requires weighing the needs of the individual against the needs of the partnership. It necessitates compromise and constant communication. And a good marriage also needs to find the equilibrium with the following contradictory qualities: 1) Adaptability A good marriage is adaptable; it grows and … Continue reading 10 Contradictory Qualities of a Good Marriage

An Objective Look At Your Relationship

When we're on the inside of a relationship, it is often difficult to be objective. After all, we don't just observe, we experience. We feel. And sometimes we only see what we are prepared to see. So it can be helpful to have a metric with which to assess the health of our relationships. I … Continue reading An Objective Look At Your Relationship

Are You a Reliable Witness?

When I was in 5th grade, I was in a gifted pull-out program. Two days a week, I got to miss my afternoon classes in order to tackle challenges and puzzles that were outside the state-mandated curriculum. One afternoon, we were all working hard at our tables on a set of brain teasers we had … Continue reading Are You a Reliable Witness?

7 Reasons People Withdraw in Relationships

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We've all felt it. That certain chill in the air. The posture slightly too rigid and closed off. The tone that is just a little too clipped. The words may be right, but something is off. A disconnection. It's like the plug that charges the relationship is only partly plugged in. It happens in every … Continue reading 7 Reasons People Withdraw in Relationships

When the Going Gets Tough

We are defined by how we act when the going gets tough. Character doesn't shine until it is challenged. And often flaws are concealed until struggle wears away the veneer of perfection. It's no surprise that crisis often dissolves a marriage. That when the going gets tough, many couples instead respond as though the crisis … Continue reading When the Going Gets Tough