An Objective Look At Your Relationship

When we're on the inside of a relationship, it is often difficult to be objective. After all, we don't just observe, we experience. We feel. And sometimes we only see what we are prepared to see. So it can be helpful to have a metric with which to assess the health of our relationships. I … Continue reading An Objective Look At Your Relationship

7 Reasons People Withdraw in Relationships

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We've all felt it. That certain chill in the air. The posture slightly too rigid and closed off. The tone that is just a little too clipped. The words may be right, but something is off. A disconnection. It's like the plug that charges the relationship is only partly plugged in. It happens in every … Continue reading 7 Reasons People Withdraw in Relationships

Why Are Relationships So Hard?

Whether it was your first heart-break in middle school, your first big misunderstanding with the one you thought-was-the-one or reality moving in along with your partner, at some point you learned that relationships aren't easy. That staying together requires a lot more effort than getting together. And that relationships are a challenge no matter what … Continue reading Why Are Relationships So Hard?

Dating After Divorce: Does Their Marital History Matter?

When I first started to contemplate dating after my tsunami divorce, I was taken aback when a friend posed the question, "So, are you looking for guys that have never been married or are you looking for a man that is also divorced?". Since the last time I was on the dating scene, I was … Continue reading Dating After Divorce: Does Their Marital History Matter?

Stepping on Toes in the Pursuit of Happiness

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"But I just wanted to be happy," my couldn't-be-ex-quickly-enough whined to the police officer in the interview room where he was being questioned for bigamy. "That doesn't give you an excuse to commit a felony," the officer responded. I could hear him shaking his head in disbelief as he related this encounter to me on … Continue reading Stepping on Toes in the Pursuit of Happiness