"I can't imagine being happy with any else but her," the message in my inbox said. The "her" in question was his ex-wife, who had recently initiated an unwanted divorce. "Do you really believe that it is possible to ever be happy with a new person?" I asked my journal that same question after my … Continue reading Can You Find Happiness With a New Partner After An Unwanted Divorce?
Whenever I work with a client who is starting to think about dating again after divorce, I advise them to first make a list of the traits/characteristics they are looking for in their next partner. Their initial results are usually so similar it's comical - "I want someone totally different from my ex. I want … Continue reading Learning From My Mistakes: How My Second Husband is Different Than My First
"A second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience." Oscar Wilde "This is it, though." I said to my then-boyfriend when he brought up the idea of marriage. "I want to be married again but this is it. I'm not going through another divorce." And with that vow, I decided to do some things … Continue reading I’m Determined to Make Marriage Work: Valuable Lessons From Divorce
Are you struggling to find love again after divorce? "I'm never going to find anybody else." "I'm doomed to die an old cat lady." "Nobody else is ever going to love me like he/she did." "My ex was the one. And now he/she is gone and I'm alone." I hear it all the time. … Continue reading 9 Reasons You’re Struggling to Find Love Again
My aunt and uncle came through Atlanta a couple of weeks ago on their trek to escape the horrid winter the north has experienced this year. It was their first time visiting the house we bought a year and a half ago. And as I was taking them on the obligatory house tour, I realized … Continue reading The “Ikea Effect” in Marriage