As a homework assignment for my recent girl’s weekend, I was asked to read The Four Agreements. I was fully willing, but somewhat skeptical, since as the only child of a counselor, I was raised on a steady diet of self-help. I think I overdosed. After the first few pages, my skepticism was replaced withContinue reading “The Power in Applying “The Four Agreements” to Divorce”
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The Life You Had is Gone
“The life you had is gone.” I would tell myself as a lament and in an attempt to force acceptance. “You now have the opportunity to create a new life.” I would continue, in a hope that optimism also operated on the “fake it until you make it” principle. “You can now build a lifeContinue reading “The Life You Had is Gone”
My Lesson From the Blue Zone
This morning, as I was dicing fresh ginger and tumeric for a chickpea curry, I was transported back to a semi-cultivated garden I toured a couple weeks ago in Costa Rica. As we trekked through the plot on our way to a waterfall, the guides would point out interesting plants and invite us to tasteContinue reading “My Lesson From the Blue Zone”
How to Rein In Your Need For Control
I was embarrassed to wear shorts. The insides of my thighs were covered with tiny half-moon cuts and welts, formed by my own finger nails digging into my tender flesh. It hurt. But strangely enough, I did it in an attempt to not feel pain. It was my first conscious bid for control. Every month,Continue reading “How to Rein In Your Need For Control”