After Divorce: What Are You Grieving?

Divorce is a type of death. The end of the life you had and the life you expected. And as with any death, grief follows closely behind. After divorce, which of these are you grieving?   Grieving the Person You Thought They Were For some of us, divorce is preceded by a revelation that ourContinue reading “After Divorce: What Are You Grieving?”

The Life You Had is Gone

“The life you had is gone.” I would tell myself as a lament and in an attempt to force acceptance. “You now have the opportunity to create a new life.” I would continue, in a hope that optimism also operated on the “fake it until you make it” principle. “You can now build a lifeContinue reading “The Life You Had is Gone”

Live the Life You Have, Not the Life You Lost

Live the life you have, not the life you lost. I recently re-watched the movie Stand By Me for the first time in many years. As with every exposure to one of Stephen King’s masterpieces, I was again struck by the particular insight the author has into the expanding and mysterious world of a child.Continue reading “Live the Life You Have, Not the Life You Lost”