Ten Things We Do For a Sense of Control During Divorce

Divorce is weird. Before separate homes are obtained, your spouse is someone you (probably) see more days than not, someone you (most likely) speak to at least once in a 24-hour period and someone who (ostensibly) knows you better than anyone else. And then you split. And the person who was your everything becomes a … Continue reading Ten Things We Do For a Sense of Control During Divorce

Controlling Your Divorce

Part of what makes divorce so difficult is that so much of what is happening around you - and to you - is completely out of your control. It's scary. It's crazy-making. It's infuriating. And it also doesn't have to be so bad. Learn how you can control your divorce.     

7 Subtle Signs You Have a Backseat Driver in Your Life

For a long time (okay, even now), when my now-husband would vocalize his opinion about something that he thought would be good for me, I recoiled. It felt almost invasive. Smothering. Controlling. Not because of what he was saying, but because of what I have been through. My now-husband is direct, expressing his thoughts and … Continue reading 7 Subtle Signs You Have a Backseat Driver in Your Life

How to Rein In Your Need For Control

I was embarrassed to wear shorts. The insides of my thighs were covered with tiny half-moon cuts and welts, formed by my own finger nails digging into my tender flesh. It hurt. But strangely enough, I did it in an attempt to not feel pain. It was my first conscious bid for control. Every month, … Continue reading How to Rein In Your Need For Control

Recalculating

Early April of 2010 was a strange time for me. My divorce had been finalized a few weeks before, I had given notice at my current school that I would not be returning the following year, I had just started falling for Brock and I was planning on moving to Seattle in June. I should … Continue reading Recalculating