While I was in the midst of my own divorce, I was convinced that my soon-to-be ex husband was my biggest enemy. I was wrong. In fact, in many ways I was my own worst enemy. I allowed myself to become consumed with things that were outside of my control. I grew increasingly frustrated with theContinue reading “How to Control Your Divorce”
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Ten Things We Do For a Sense of Control During Divorce
Divorce is weird. Before separate homes are obtained, your spouse is someone you (probably) see more days than not, someone you (most likely) speak to at least once in a 24-hour period and someone who (ostensibly) knows you better than anyone else. And then you split. And the person who was your everything becomes aContinue reading “Ten Things We Do For a Sense of Control During Divorce”
7 Subtle Signs You Have a Backseat Driver in Your Life
For a long time (okay, even now), when my now-husband would vocalize his opinion about something that he thought would be good for me, I recoiled. It felt almost invasive. Smothering. Controlling. Not because of what he was saying, but because of what I have been through. My now-husband is direct, expressing his thoughts andContinue reading “7 Subtle Signs You Have a Backseat Driver in Your Life”
How to Rein In Your Need For Control
I was embarrassed to wear shorts. The insides of my thighs were covered with tiny half-moon cuts and welts, formed by my own finger nails digging into my tender flesh. It hurt. But strangely enough, I did it in an attempt to not feel pain. It was my first conscious bid for control. Every month,Continue reading “How to Rein In Your Need For Control”