How It Began

38 Responses

  1. Leanna says:

    Stay strong. Stay beautiful. You have the ability to change the world with your actions and your thoughts.

  2. Tom Leykis says:

    This didn’t happen in a vacuum. Get over it.

    • No, it did not happen in a vacuum. I fully accept my part in what happened, and I have worked hard to improve those areas of myself. I do not live in the past; this trauma helped form me, but it does not define me. However, suggesting that I simply “get over it,” is rather callous and narrow. I have used and am still using this experience to foster growth. Rather than getting over it, I am choosing how to view it.

    • Jeep says:

      Tom Leykis…shhhh…you might be an asshole…wth do you mean ‘this didn’t happen in a vacuum. Get over it.’ ???? Ever been through it Tom?

  3. erinlandress says:

    This entire blog is very moving, and I’m amazed at how strong you are for picking up and moving on. Keep it up and I’ll see you at tough mudder next year! 🙂
    -your old student, Erin Landress.

  4. rascalfoxx says:

    For decades, I have remarked that the best revenge is living well.

    Congratulations! Your revenge is strong, deep, and ongoing!

    You are not only living well, you are thriving and fully alive.

    Kudos to you! It makes me lol inside to watch you grow and succeed after his secession from the relationship.
    Roll on in happiness, satisfaction, and victory!

  5. Good luck StillLearning. My heart goes out to you! I am amazed as someone offers, “get over it”. My wife, who is very strong willed, would ask, “Get over it? It gives me fuel to live and learn from it. ”

    However we cope it will make you stronger. I am following and hope to offer some support.

  6. Good for you I like your answers!! You are quite right from the depths of darkness we are formed to grow into the people we are meant to become. Keep up your courage you seem to be doing great! Thank you for stopping by my blog that brought me to you. Tovah

  7. Anonymous says:

    you may have saved my life.

  8. Dean says:

    BTW, a lot of the links on this page don’t work.

  9. marydcoto says:

    Thank you for visiting and following my blog. You are amazing. Stay strong. marydcoto

  10. Anonymous says:

    You are a brave lady. Divorce is a shock in itself, but when you uncover the lies and sheer scale of the deceit, its a living hell. You got through it and you are braver and stronger as a result.

  11. Anonymous says:

    I have and am going through a shockingly similar situation. Mine happened a little over a year ago, also with my high school sweetheart. He left me with no warning for a nurse that he had met at the hospital. He was a resident at the time. I had supported him through college, medical school and all of his residency except for six months at the end when he left. I’m also a teacher like you. I plan on buying your book and reading it. You are an inspiration for me.

    • I’m sorry to hear that you are in a similar situation. I’m glad I can be of help. I share my story in the hope that others don’t feel as alone as I did in those early days.

      So, are you out for winter break or are you still counting down?

      Two. More. Days. On my side! 🙂

  12. Quentin says:

    There is certainly a lot to find out about this issue.
    I really like all the points you’ve made.

  13. RunToInspire says:

    wow- I can’t wait to dig into your book

  14. I’m divorced too, but I don’t think my divorce was nearly as traumatic as yours was. Ten years of marriage and he leaves you with a text message and gets married 6 days after he left you. That sounds like a movie (wouldn’t it be cool if your book got turned into a movie!). I really impressed that you wrote a book about your experience. I’ve attempted to write a book several times in my life, but have yet to succeed. I also love that you’re supporting so many people through your blog. That’s really great! Celeste 🙂 PS – thanks for following!

    • I;m glad to hear your divorce wasn’t as traumatic. I don’t wish that on anyone! It felt like living in a movie, and I’ve often wondered if it will ever become one. I actually started journaling in the beginning but once police, lawyers and doctors all expressed shock at the tale, I knew it needed to be a book:)

      As for the blog, I knew in the early days that I needed to find a way to create something good out of the mess. My little way to spin negative energy into good:)

      Thanks for the support!

      • I really hope your book becomes a movie. Just the way you’ve been able to deal with all that you experienced in such a positive way is so inspirational! Celeste 🙂

  15. I have just discovered your blog and it’s wonderful and inspiring. I am at the start (3 months in) of my journey of divorce and separation. The last 3 months have been dark, desperate and like climbing daily mountains. But I am slowly coming through and starting to look at the view. Thanks for following me which meant I found you! xx

  16. Sasha says:

    I left my husband over two years ago and filed for divorce. After we married, I found out he had been married more times than he had originally said. He was verbally and physically abusive. I found out after I left him he had been abusive in his previous marriages. He has now remarried and I believe his new wife is pregnant. We are still not divorced. I have been trying to resolve the marriage since I filed over two years ago. He has an extensive military background and is unpredictable. Only my close friends and relatives know where I live. Do you think it makes sense to file a police report for bigamy? I know he’s remarried and its against the law. I also worry for my safety.

    • What a difficult and painful mess. I am so sorry you’re having to deal with this. If your goal is to finalize divorce as quickly and smoothly as positive, my experience is that alerting the state to the bigamy will not impact the civil suit and will only add to the complexity and the mess you’re having to deal with. My ex never dealt with the criminal charges (warrant out last I knew) and it probably served to make him more difficult in the divorce case. Of course, that’s just one situation. Thinking of you. No easy answers.

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