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Quitting vs. Letting Go

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  1. cathmae says:

    Yes…. that is what I have done and am doing: letting go. Now on my own but it’s still very early in the process and I’m finding I need daily reminders that I also must let go of the hopes I had that my EX will now be the compassionate friend he could never be while we were together. Ain’t going to happen.

  2. michelle says:

    Thanks, needed that talk, started a new job and felt like running away after two weeks. Realize before it was too late that it was fear. After Duane left I haven’t had the capacity to make decisions anymore. Do I like this or that? Who am I? I am having a real hard time letting go. I need to find out if I am quitting or letting go things in my life. Will take your words to heart.

  3. Hi Lisa, If you don’t mind I’m going to re-blog this?

  4. Mauricio says:

    Thanks for posting this.. It’s been a pleasure to read 🙂

  5. Victor says:

    Thank you for this. Everyone has night demons. If you are going to own the night you have make choices instead of having them made for you which is what fear does…

  6. Robert says:

    Very well-written. It could apply to a lot of problems in life, not just the end of a marriage.

  7. Nonomori says:

    Lisa, I think what you say here about the differences in motivation is very insightful. But I’m not so sure that how you feel about a decision is a reliable indicator about your motivation. For example, you may “quit”, but have a great sense of relief about it because you feel you have escaped the source of your fear. You haven’t, because the fear is actually within you, and it may come back to bite you later, but in the moment of decision you may feel wonderful. It’s only later that the dissonance sets in, and you feel compelled to justify your decision and explain away all of those unsettled feelings that won’t go away.

  1. October 21, 2012

    […] Letting go happens when you face your fear. It is that moment when your fear is telling you to grip tight and you choose to release. Letting go is born of acceptance, an understanding that you cannot control all of the outcomes. Letting go gives a sense of peace. Of weightlessness. Quitting is easy. Letting go is not. It is conscious, deliberate act that may take years or decades. It requires patience and compassion. Give yourself that gift and be the driver of your own life. – Lisa Arends […]

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    […] Letting go happens when you face your fear. It is that moment when your fear is telling you to grip tight and you choose to release. Letting go is born of acceptance, an understanding that you cannot control all of the outcomes. Letting go gives a sense of peace. Of weightlessness. Quitting is easy. Letting go is not. It is conscious, deliberate act that may take years or decades. It requires patience and compassion. Give yourself that gift and be the driver of your own life. – Lisa Arends […]

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