The End of a Relationship: The Leavers and The Left

This piece, about what happens to the people that leave relationships abruptly and/or with deception, caused quite a stir on Facebook recently. The comments fell into two camps: “Thank you for validating my experience” and “I’m the one who left my marriage and I’m tired of being painted as the bad guy.” The reaction got meContinue reading “The End of a Relationship: The Leavers and The Left”

How to Supercharge Your “I” Statements

As the child of a marriage and family therapist, I think my first complete sentences came in the form of “I” statements, a conversation tactic often recommended by counselors to express your needs without attacking or blaming the other person. For example, “I feel frustrated when you leave your socks on the floor. I wouldContinue reading “How to Supercharge Your “I” Statements”