Top Ten Posts of 2019

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1 – 7 Reasons Your Ex Getting Married is the Worst (And 7 Reasons it’s Not)

This has been a leader for a few years now. I think people are caught off guard with the intensity of their reaction when they learn that their ex is getting married and they turn to Google to validate their feelings and reassure themselves that they’re not alone. I also created a video this year that addresses the topic.

 

2 – Subtle Signs You’re Being Manipulated by a Covert Abuser

Covert abuse is sneaky. Knowing the signs is the first step in protecting yourself.

 

3 – 5 Things You Don’t Understand About Divorce Until You’ve Lived Through It

I don’t think any of us knew what to expect before we went through divorce ourselves. This post is both validating of your experiences and helps you understand while some people in your life may struggle to “get it.”

 

4 – Finding Happiness After an Unwanted Divorce

When you’ve been hit by the Mack Truck of an unwanted divorce, being happy again feels impossible. This post helps to reassure you that it’s not.

 

5 – Is it Love? The False Dawn of a Rebound Relationship

It feels real. And you desperately want it to BE real. But there is a reason that those early post-divorce relationships don’t tend to last.

 

6 – Five Empowering Ways to Recover From Gaslighting

Gaslighting leaves you feeling so confused and powerless that it’s difficult to see the way out. This post gives you actionable strategies that can help you heal.

 

7 – How Do You Get Through Your Anniversary After Divorce?

The first one is awful. And subsequent ones can still be a bittersweet reminder of what was loved – and lost. I share ideas what what you can do before, during and after that day to help ease you through.

 

8 – 15 Questions to Ask Yourself If You’ve Been Cheated On

After being cheated on, your mind is a swirling mess of emotions. These 15 questions act like a guide rail to help you find your way.

 

9 – Ten Metaphors For Divorce

These are a mixture of eye-opening and funny as divorce is compared to everything from a favorite sweater to a visit to the eye doctor. Which do you relate to?

 

10 – The Importance of Feeling Safe in a Relationship

I wrote this post after I realized how little we talk about the importance of feeling emotionally safe in a relationship. Based on the views and the reaction on Facebook, it’s a conversation that needs to happen.

 

Top Ten ‘Lessons From the End of a Marriage’ Posts of 2016

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2016 was filled with questions about how to deal with narcissists (and other difficult people), how to create emotional distance from your ex (especially when they have the audacity to remarry) and how to take control of your own life and happiness. All important questions.

Did you miss any of these popular reads?

 7 Reasons Discovering Your Ex is Getting Married is the Worst (and 7 Reasons It’s Not)  Because even though we may not want them anymore, it’s still hard to realize they’re moving on.

Finding Happiness After An Unwanted Divorce It begins with an awful realization – that your marriage is ending and you cannot stop it. Where do you go from there?

How to Accept the Apology You Never Received Often times the people that harm us the worst are the same ones who refuse to apologize for their transgressions. Let that be their problem, not yours.

How to Fall Out of Love Sometimes the relationship ends before your love does. And it’s painful to still love someone who no longer loves you. Here’s how to let go.

Subtle Signs You’re Being Manipulated by a Covert Abuser I felt weird writing this post, expecting people to belittle the signs I saw in my ex. Instead, I was surprised to find that many people experienced similar wolves in sheep’s clothing.

Why “How Could You Do This to Me?” Is the Wrong Question to Ask This piece was inspired by one of The Four Agreements – “never take it personally.” It’s amazing what happens when we can separate someone’s actions from ourselves.

Five Empowering Ways to Recover From Gaslighting Because gaslighting is the worst. Learn how to find your own truth again.

8 Reasons Relationships Move Too Fast (and Why You Should Slow it Down) A lot of people find themselves in a runaway relationship train. This post will help you understand why that happens and give you ideas to regain some control.

Is It Love? The False Dawn of a Rebound Relationship The first relationship after divorce can be powerfully intoxicating. It can also be incredibly damaging. Learn the difference.

Phases of Moving On After Divorce Apparently, I’m not the only one who experiences impatience:) Moving on can’t be rushed and certain things have to happen before other steps can be taken.