One Isn’t the Loneliest Number

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  1. LostMyWay says:

    It seems as if this post was/is directed at me! I don’t know if on purpose or not and you are 100% correct about it either way! I truly feel this way almost everyday all day. I know its a self-destructing emotion this loneliness. I am starting to slowly see it! But it is a feeling that is hard to stop from showing! I hid all of my emotions for many many years and just can’t do it any more! Again Lisa, you are a wonderful, bright, and insightful breath of fresh air! And you have helped me tremendously in my journey to find some sanity in my life again……….And I thank you from the bottom of my broken heart!

  2. DeLynn says:

    One thing that came to mind for me as well as at times I think we focus on how bad it is that we are alone and don’t have that other person. However, there are always positives of being alone (even just for the temporary). I know for me I am so thankful that I don’t have to pick up after a man and share the TV remote. Also, sometimes isn’t it nice to have the WHOLE bed to yourself? LOL.. 🙂

  3. cathmae says:

    I experienced such loneliness in my marriage. When it became unbearable, I should have left, but felt immobilized. Instead I rushed into motherhood and although the rewards were huge, I realized much later that having children brought people into my life who knew and understood me, and it seemed to matter less that I was not understood and valued in my marriage. Can’t say I regret any of it – I have the greatest kids!!! I took the long way to get here, but now I’m loving the solitude of being single for the first time in my adult life.

  4. I am enjoying aloneness and solitude, being able to do exactly what I want to do, being able to take my time. I think it would be a really difficult thing for me to give that up now.

  5. Paula says:

    Also, when you’re alone and lonely, you know WHY you’re lonely ~ hey, it’s cuz I’m alone, dur. But when you’re in a “couple,” however permanent or loosely, you feel stupid being lonely. You tell yourself you “shouldn’t” be lonely because you “have” someone in your life, etc. You try to make your feelings disappear via logic, which never works. Oh well.

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