How to Love And Be Loved After Divorce

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  1. Ryan Dueck says:

    Reblogged this on How are you? …Good and commented:
    Great read.

  2. Michelle says:

    Thank you Lisa for offering another perspective on the term “baggage”. I guess when I think baggage I think children, step-children, ex’s, in-laws, debt, more the physical things you have to deal with. The crazy ex that is always causing drama. The children that don’t want a “new” mom or dad. When I use baggage that is my reference. I will rethink how I use the term.

  3. aveline07 says:

    Great article thanks Lisa. My struggle in starting new relationships is deciding “when” to tell my story…it’s a lot of vulnerability to lay out there, but if one waits too long, it’s harder to disengage…tricky balance.

  4. Thanks Lisa, I have always said I don’t need someone with matching luggage only someone who will help me pull mine through customs and maybe by matching tags. You simply cannot reach my age without some baggage, it is impossible.

  5. This may be the most helpful thing I have read in over a year. While I am still healing, I have much less to heal from than the man I am with now and love more than words can say. It has been so hard to handle all of the triggers, setbacks, etc. that have come up for us. This article is like a roadmap, reinforcing what I should keep doing and helping me understand so much of what has been happening with us. Thank you!!

  6. StartingOver says:

    Reblogged this on starting At The Start and commented:
    “Baggage” – A strong term that has no meaning becasue we all carry something with us…..

  7. StartingOver says:

    What’s funny is as a guy I don’t judge what a woman has been through, however most women I meet “run” when they hear my marriage track record.

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