First Responder Mode

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  1. candidkay says:

    I called that survival mode. Figuring out the finances, the kids, how to keep the basics in motion. I feel her pain!

    • I’ve called it survivor mode too. I decided on first responder to try to capture that weird, third person looking at your life from a distance feeling you can have in those times.

  2. reocochran says:

    Very excellent advice! I liked the way you wrote this, it is well written and the list of things for her (or a man in same situation) are beneficial and meaningful. I think that saying i”t is not normal and it won’t feel normal for a long time” is a lot like what you said. (Those are words I pass out…)

  3. cathmae says:

    Reading this post gave me some perspective on why I waited until I had sold my house and created a stable living environment for myself before I began grieving deeply. It feels like I am moving backward, because I want to be done with grief. But it may just be the best way forward. I am less than a year out of my marriage, and it’s really helpful to hear the reflections of women who are a couple of years ahead of me. Thanks!

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