Life’s Odometer

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  1. This is a good analogy….

  2. Love this! Perfection

  3. AmazinglyBrash says:

    Nice….glad you realization that you was starting something new and improved. You and your ex lived one life but your second chance at forever was a new book; it wasn’t a continuation, it was a whole new serious. It’s natural to compare your past with the present but it should’t get in the way of your future. Fortunately, you realized it before you lost your happily everafter!!!!

  4. Solosearcher says:

    Beautiful post. I completely agree, one of the things I keep telling myself now – six months into my new life almost to the day – is to not let my past be my only guide to the future. I’ve been stuck looking out the rear view mirror a lot, it’s time to stare straight ahead. I want to thank you for being so important to my understanding of it all. I think I’m going to take my site down soon… you can read about that on my blog if you want. Not that I want to stop blogging, just move in a different direction now. Thank you for your wisdom and sharing.

    • Thank you for your kind words. I’m so glad to hear that I have been able to help you through this. That is the reason I chose to go public with my story and my writing. I read this morning about your blog. That’s one of the wonderful things about blogging – we can let it ebb and flow and change to suit our needs and desires. I wish you the best on whatever direction you chose to go.

  5. I like this, Lisa, and it came at a good time for me, as I discovered over the weekend that my last boyfriend had spent most of our relationship dating and sleeping with others — ouch! I felt exactly as you describe it — like all those months were wasted and I’d been ticking them off, feeling like their passage MEANT something to the strength of our relationship, when, in fact, they didn’t. The man I’m with now (whom I’m calling “Pete”) has only been in my life romantically for 2 months, and I have found myself doing just as you did — scoffing at how little time that was by comparison to… well, anything, really. I was with my ex-husband for 13 years, my last relationship for 18 months… what is a measly 2 months?! And yet, that’s not fair, is it? It’s important to see the value in the time spent on the journey and sometimes we cram a lot into a little time. These last two months have been bursting with self-discovery and new awareness of all kinds of things; some of them he has prompted, while others he has simply observed alongside me. But either way, I shouldn’t diminish it. I know better and appreciate the reminder from you today. 🙂

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