17 Things I’m Looking Forward To In 2017

1 – I planted a bunch of daffodil bulbs along my driveway last month. I’m looking forward to seeing their cheerful yellow heads welcome me home each day in late February.

2 –  I found a new (and amazing) yoga studio several weeks ago. I love the teachers, the space and the energy. I look forward to deepening my practice and taking more classes.

3  – The final surgery on my legs should be in a couple months. I’m looking forward to being pain-free and able to run and move as I want.

4 – I’m looking forward to finishing this intense school year and being able to use what I’ve created next school year.

5 – I’m planning a road trip through eastern Canada the northern part of the U.S. with a childhood friend. I’m looking forward to reconnecting and exploring.

6 – I’m looking forward to a deeper connection in my marriage. To getting to know my husband even better and being willing to open up even more.

7 – I’m looking forward to turning 40. And having a mid-life amplification. It sounds much better than a crisis.

8 – I recommitted to my meditation practice a few months ago. I look forward to continuing that in the coming months.

9 – I look forward to my friend bringing home her new baby and to spending time with her daughter.

10 – As I find my groove at work, I look forward to having more time to get to know my new coworkers. They’re some awesome people.

11 – I just created a budget to pay off the last of my student loans within the year. I look forward to being one step closer to debt free.

12 – I look forward to trying new things in 2017. Acro yoga is on the list. I need to add more.

13 – I have so many blog ideas in reserve from the past 6 months. I’m looking forward to having the time to write them.

14 – I’m looking forward to my husband getting his blackbelt in BJJ. I’m so proud of his dedication and persistence. He truly is a bada$$.

15 – I’m looking forward to receiving notes from both former students and readers and hearing about their accomplishments.

16 – A new Braves stadium opens in a few months closer to my home. I’m looking forward to experiencing games in the new facility.

17 – I’m looking forward to leaning more, doing more and being more grateful.

How about you – What are you looking forward to in 2017?

Top Ten ‘Lessons From the End of a Marriage’ Posts of 2016

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2016 was filled with questions about how to deal with narcissists (and other difficult people), how to create emotional distance from your ex (especially when they have the audacity to remarry) and how to take control of your own life and happiness. All important questions.

Did you miss any of these popular reads?

 7 Reasons Discovering Your Ex is Getting Married is the Worst (and 7 Reasons It’s Not)  Because even though we may not want them anymore, it’s still hard to realize they’re moving on.

Finding Happiness After An Unwanted Divorce It begins with an awful realization – that your marriage is ending and you cannot stop it. Where do you go from there?

How to Accept the Apology You Never Received Often times the people that harm us the worst are the same ones who refuse to apologize for their transgressions. Let that be their problem, not yours.

How to Fall Out of Love Sometimes the relationship ends before your love does. And it’s painful to still love someone who no longer loves you. Here’s how to let go.

Subtle Signs You’re Being Manipulated by a Covert Abuser I felt weird writing this post, expecting people to belittle the signs I saw in my ex. Instead, I was surprised to find that many people experienced similar wolves in sheep’s clothing.

Why “How Could You Do This to Me?” Is the Wrong Question to Ask This piece was inspired by one of The Four Agreements – “never take it personally.” It’s amazing what happens when we can separate someone’s actions from ourselves.

Five Empowering Ways to Recover From Gaslighting Because gaslighting is the worst. Learn how to find your own truth again.

8 Reasons Relationships Move Too Fast (and Why You Should Slow it Down) A lot of people find themselves in a runaway relationship train. This post will help you understand why that happens and give you ideas to regain some control.

Is It Love? The False Dawn of a Rebound Relationship The first relationship after divorce can be powerfully intoxicating. It can also be incredibly damaging. Learn the difference.

Phases of Moving On After Divorce Apparently, I’m not the only one who experiences impatience:) Moving on can’t be rushed and certain things have to happen before other steps can be taken.

 

 

A Misunderstanding

A misunderstanding.

Tinged perhaps with my own poorly expressed sense of disappointment.

Hurt feelings and a perception of being unrecognized.

Is there any worse feeling than that of letting down someone you love?

Beating myself up right now.

And always trying to do better.

All I Want For Christmas is a ThunderShirt

For those of you unaware of this remarkarkable item, this is a ThunderShirt.

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They provide compression that helps to alleviate canine anxiety. The name comes from their intended use during thunderstorms.

And I want one.

Not for Tiger. He’s chill.

But for me. Because I’m not.

And no, I’m afraid of thunder.

Let me explain.

Brock got me a weighted blanket a few days ago. There quite commonly used for people (especially kids) with sensory issues. The extra pressure help to calm anxiety and quiet the agitated mind.

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It’s a lot heavier than it looks.

Well, I’m not a kid and I don’t have sensory issues. But I most definitely have anxiety and an agitated mind.

And in three short nights of sleeping with this blanket folded in thirds across from chest, the difference has been amazing. Night and day, you might even say.

I fall asleep faster with less mental busyness. I sleep deeper. And I can even fall back asleep when I am awaken during the night.

And once I’m up in the morning? My body is calmer, with less of the jumpiness I usually experience and my mind doesn’t fall so eality into overwhelm.

All because of a blanket.

I’ve threatened to wear it to work like some super hero cape. Or, at the very least, keep if folded behind my desk for emergency use.

Can you just picture the students’ reactions when I lay on the floor with a leaden blanket draped over me? 🙂

So see, that’s why I need a ThunderShirt. Stylish (well, for a dog) and portable.

And for the really rough days…

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How Being Cheated On Impacts Your Next Relationship

I wish I could say that my first husband’s infidelity has had no impact on my second marriage.

But the unfortunate reality is that, even though my ex has long since been excised from my life, his choices still have an impact. On me and on my marriage.

By understanding how being cheating on impacts your next relationship, you can help to maximize the positive effects and minimize the negative ones. Learn more here.