Guest Post: Time Wasted…Or Holy Crap, Time Flies When You Are With the Wrong Person

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  1. Reblogged this on Starting At The Start and commented:
    My Guest Posting On “Lessons From The End Of A Marriage”

  2. candidkay says:

    While I think the idea of finding the right “forever” person is admirable, I have realized (via my own divorce) that you can’t really do that. You can only control you and your changing–no one else’s. So I think we all bite the bullet, trust our gut, do the best we can do. But unfortunately, no guarantees. We aspire to forever and some of us, by luck, fate–whatever–make it.

    • Hi and thank you for your thoughts/comments. While I fully agree with you that be it called fate/destiny/luck/etc.. is what it is as we can’t control others. I am a hopeless romantic at heart and I strive to have a a “perfect” relationship (I admit I have read my fair share of romance novels) and yes I will be the first to admit I am not perfect.

      I do believe we as a whole can make our relationships better be them casual/work/romantic however we always have something else to do such as work/sleep/watch TV, etc… I am 100% guilty of it as well and in hindsight I know for a fact this is part of the problem with my second marriage…I withdrew into myself and did not open up/rely upon my wife to be there and work with me.

      So is there a “perfect love/marriage” no there is not but my parents did something better than I have over the course of two marriages. Part of that I think may have been commitment to one another/the idea of forever. I say this because I have just one Aunt who was ever divorced and she was born in the 1950’s not the late 1930’s/early 40’s like all my other Aunts and Uncles. I may be right on my ideas I may be wrong, I don’t know.

      Thanks again for you comments/thoughts they have given me something to think about.

  3. The loss of dreams of the happy-ever-after is a huge loss. It is a greater loss than the loss of the person.

    • Thank you so much for your comment and absolutely yes you are correct with your statement which is why I have not given up on the idea of a “happily ever after”….I do believe it can be found and is out there somewhere for all of us. We as a society have made divorce too easy…I’m not saying there is no cause for it but a lot of people look at as “oh well I’m not happy, but instead of fixing my marital problem I will just get a divorce and move on” which is exactly what my wife did. Personally I feel sorry for the guy she is with now/left me for because if she was so easy to do it with me (see my blog for the details) she will do it to him as well.
      Keep the faith!!!

      • I agree that society makes the divorce process too easy. Divorce itself is never easy and that is what is not first thought out by the one who leaves. At least that is what I feel.

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