9 Responses

  1. muddy runner says:

    Great post. I think we all need those people in our lives we trust enough to call us out on our own BS…

  2. I, like you, have this need to know why he did what he did. But realize that whatever excuse or answer he gives me will be bull. Or so painful, do I really want to know? It’s still so fresh and raw for me. I hope I find peace with not knowing sooner rather than later. Thank you.

  3. I talk to this exactly but I’m the one who threw the bum out because he refused to act like a husband with duties and responsibilities as a father. Still, it took years of working out the guilt of making the (right) choice. Not what I had in mind when I agreed to marry. Wait. That was my fault too. Ha ha. (not really).

  4. Thank you for this post. I’m deep in the “make him face the natural and legal consequences of his choices.” Courts really aren’t about justice, though, so it *is* a snipe hunt. I need a bit more time to put down my (metaphorical) rifle.

  5. CRM says:

    Timely I seem to be looking for excuses right about now. :/

  6. Lori Gibson says:

    It’s been two years since he left suddenly and I too, struggled to learn and know why he did it. I’m at peace now with not learning. But, I’m still struggling with wanting him to feel what he did to me. I know that I need to get over this in order to heal, but it’s really hard

  7. I recently have been re-evaluating what is keeping me from reaching my goals and dreams, and lo and behold, the main saboteur is my own excuses. I tend to use “all or nothing” thinking as an excuse for healing and for moving forward. I also had to own that I allow my emotional well-being to be influenced by other people in my life. To paraphrase Maya Angelou, now that I know better, I am doing better. . .

  8. Sam says:

    I am caught up in the wanting to understand loop. How could the two people I loved and trusted so much discard me for each other and not even care about the pain they’ve inflicted on me and the children? But I’ve told myself that I’d never fully understand it because I’d never think of doing that to anyone. There are no legal ramifications they could face, but I really hope karma exists.

Leave a Reply

%d bloggers like this: