The Importance of Love Mentors

RelationshipsI have always tried to surround myself with mentors to help me grow in the various areas of my life.  I have people I look towards to help me improve as a teacher, others that help me move towards my wellness aspirations, and yet others I turn to for practical advice.  As my divorce unfolded, I realized I had an opening for a new type of coach:  a love mentor.

One of the happy side effects of undergoing a major life transition is that people feel comfortable sharing their own stories.  As I began to hear some of the love and marriage stories from the people in my life, I was shocked to find that many of them had been through divorce and love trauma in a former, yet unrevealed, life.  I heard the stories of betrayal, loss, and despair, yet I could look at their lives, filled with joy and, in many cases, a new relationship that had persisted over many years.

In those dark days when I wondered if I could ever love again, I found inspiration from my love mentors.  When I felt discouraged that I spent 16 years heading to a dead end, I gazed upon the decades many of them had spent with their new loves.  I saw how love could look different that what I had known, but still be beautiful.  I heard about the challenges and joys in second marriages.  My love mentors helped me find wisdom and hope through their stories.


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5 Responses

  1. Caterina Arends says:

    I found this same thing to be true.

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