Anger Deflation

My biggest stumbling block was (and at times, continues to be) anger.  I could not get past the deliberate nature of what he had done.  Holding me, telling me how […]

The Mathematics of To-Do Lists

Try as I might, I just can’t seem to figure out the mathematics behind to-do lists.  Sometimes the lists are brief, deceptively hiding the magnitude of the tasks that lie […]

The Power in Your Story

Try shifting your mind: instead of thinking of your trauma as something that happened TO you,  try thinking of it as a part of your story.  When it is your […]

Are You (With) the Right Mate?

This interesting article (Are You With the Right Mate?) from Psychology Today highlights some of our cultural assumptions about what partnerships are supposed to be.  Divorce is a wonderful opportunity […]

The First Tears of the New Year…

and I am happy to report that they are tears of relief.  Validation.  Gratitude. What prompted these tears, you ask? A letter and check in the mail from none other […]

Where Is He Now?

When I share my story, one of the most frequent questions I get is, “Where is he now?”  I don’t know the answer to that question. Here is what I […]

Anger is a Succubus

Anger.   It is so easy to go there.  To stay there. Why did he do this to me?  How could he have done these things? What a (fill in the […]

Myths? …or mythical thinking?

The article, 3 Myths About Happy Marriages on PsychCentral introduced myths that are based on the work of John Gottman, Ph.D and his book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage […]

Winter Does Not Have to Mean Discontent

The end of a marriage reminds me of a winter landscape.  All is laid bare.  The adornments and filigree are gone, leaving the structure exposed to the biting wind.  Its […]