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In Perpetuity

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  1. Thanks, Lisa. I needed this today. Not the abandonment issues part, but facing your fears.

  2. Caterina Arends says:

    You’ve put the puzzle pieces together. Good for you. I am very glad and proud of your inner work in doing this. With all these parts now in conscious awareness, you have a new freedom. Choices can now be made from a different place.

    As a mother, I could see and be aware of all of that as it was unfolding, but powerless to prevent or stop. I wanted to but couldn’t. Your own awareness and healing has/ had to come in it’s own time and it’s own way. I couldn’t make that happen either. Hard place to be. A Mom so wants to protect, prevent, help, heal—but hard, cold reality is that so often it is either other people’s choices or life events outside of ones control.

    Ah, the life journeys and the life’s learnings. From my language and perspective, the soul gets wiser and wiser—in this schoolroom called life. But it sure is hard. No shortage of challenges!

    I’m proud of your sharing and helping so many others. Good for you. Feel proud of yourself.

  3. Caterina Arends says:

    P.S. What I did try to do, to the best of my ability, was teach and model coping skills and moving forward.

    On Tue, Nov 4, 2014 at 1:03 PM, Caterina Arends wrote:

    > You’ve put the puzzle pieces together. Good for you. I am very glad and > proud of your inner work in doing this. With all these parts now in > conscious awareness, you have a new freedom. Choices can now be made from a > different place. > > As a mother, I could see and be aware of all of that as it was unfolding, > but powerless to prevent or stop. I wanted to but couldn’t. Your own > awareness and healing has/ had to come in it’s own time and it’s own way. I > couldn’t make that happen either. Hard place to be. A Mom so wants to > protect, prevent, help, heal—but hard, cold reality is that so often it > is either other people’s choices or life events outside of ones control. > > Ah, the life journeys and the life’s learnings. From my language and > perspective, the soul gets wiser and wiser—in this schoolroom called > life. But it sure is hard. No shortage of challenges! > > I’m proud of your sharing and helping so many others. Good for you. Feel > proud of yourself. > > On Tue, Nov 4, 2014 at 4:21 AM, Lessons From the End of a Marriage <

  4. Lisa, I too have learned the power of my family (my mother and siblings) and how much they are always there for me with total unconditional love and support. This is the silver lining… a deeper relationship with them.

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