It’s Not You, It’s Me

One of the unexpected gifts that I gained with a tsunami divorce is that I didn’t have my ex around to target. I mean, sure I blamed him, but that only took me so far and eventually I had to focus on what I could impact – myself. I’ve carried that perspective into my new marriage; when something in the relationship needs tweaking, I adjust myself rather than looking to change my partner.

This article on Psychology Today presents some great ways to shift your focus in a way that can help you improve, whether you’re in a relationship or in the fallout of a relationship.  Because the best part of accepting your responsibility is that you have the power to change it.




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11 Responses

  1. secretangel says:

    Awesome post. Thanks for sharing… and I love that term, “tsunami divorce”. Perfect term for a terrible storm in our lives.

  2. shadus713 says:

    Yes! Perfect term, I’m going through a tsunami right now myself, and couldn’t describe it any better than that!!

  3. shadus713 says:

    Reblogged this on Just Shad…like shadow, without the OH and commented:
    Perfect term for it!

  4. her30s says:

    Best advice! You can’t change your partner, sometimes you have to change how you react to them.

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