Fine China

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  1. newtodating says:

    Much like my 15 year old dishes, granted they are good quality plates although one actually does have a chip in it, my heart is to be used and not tucked away in a cabinet even though I know there’s the possibility of it getting smashed next time it hits the floor. Nice post.

  2. When I divorced, the china cabinet was empty. I decided to get my own and fill it with things I love.
    Great post!

  3. Never saw my way clear to buy g.o.o.d. china because it would always be used for special occasions and tears and angst if something gets broken.
    I own five sets of dishes, some dollar store, some thrift store, some garage sale. I rotate them to make dinners special and I love each and every one of them.

  4. I would never want to be anything other than what I’ve learned to be this year… Bring on your chipped and your cracked, your mismatched and reglued… If they’re not pristine, then they must be well used! 🙂

  5. Valerie says:

    I love this post. Never ever thought of investing in pricey china sets. I have one chipped cup in my cupboard but cant get my self drink from it I really cannot tell why. After having read your story, I couldn’t wrap myself around how quickly you managed to put your fine china (heart) out there again. I also share the same experience as yours (text message and all) about 5 years ago but still have not though of the possibility of ever falling love again.

    • Ugh. Text, too? Sorry to hear that:( There is so timeline for healing, no button that can be pushed. It happens at different rates for different people due to the traits and experiences you have going in, the nature of the trauma and the support you have afterwards. Please just compare yourself to yourself. If you’re better today than you were last year, you’re doing awesome:)

  6. We, of course, got china as part of our wedding presents. It’s lovely stuff. Fortunately a pattern that does not harken to a particular time period. We bring it out once or twice a year. Which means at most we’ve probably used it 35 times over the years. And we’ve never had the need to use all 12 settings at once.

    Looking back, seems a bit of a waste, to be honest! But it’s what you did.

  7. candidkay says:

    And yet a third breed–those of us that buy the gorgeous matched set and actually USE it:). After my parents’ death and my divorce, I realized the fine crystal should be used–daily. By me, with a Monday-night dinner. And you know what? Wine DOES taste better:)

  8. candidkay says:

    Here’s a bit more on that–I hope you’re using your crystal! And if you don’t have it, that you get some:)

  9. I have been following various blogs for up to two years now. Some people are now writing about their second or third break-up (with much pain each time) and I have wondered in those situations why they risked their heart so soon.
    I think it is important to be properly happy within oneself first.
    I am quite content being single at the moment.

    • I think rushing in is out of fear of being alone and refusing to love again is out of fear of being hurt. There’s a balance and being happy with yourself absolutely comes first:)

      • Yes, trying to find that balance. I probably am still in the ‘fear of being hurt’ category. Mine being a late-life divorce (which I initially looked on as ‘this sucks’) I am now seeing as a blessing (as compared to younger divorces) as I have my family and had much experience of “togetherness”. I am now embracing the opportunity of living on my own and its advantages of being able to do exactly what I want. Whether that changes in the future only time will tell. Ha-ha, someone would have to tap me on the shoulder because I am definitely not looking 🙂
        I think that you did it the right way as, from reading your blog, you became your new self first before entering another long-term commitment with anyone. I wish you only happiness in your second marriage.

  10. I inherited my grandmothers ‘good’ china many years ago. I have never used it, not one single time. It is ugly. But I preserve it for some future generation who might think it is worth the preservation and think it is beautiful, there are great-grandchildren who might think this and they are welcome to it.

    My dishes are for use. I think they are fabulous but they get used.

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