Sides Effects of Betrayal
When you have been betrayed, your world view forever shifts. Motives are questions. Secrets are assumed. Nothing is as it seems.
You want to trust but you don’t know how. You feel victimized and either accept that role in defeat or desperately search for control and assurance that you will never be a victim again.
It’s oh-so-easy to keep moving beyond the betrayal without fully addressing its impact. To attribute future struggles to something (or someone) else when it is really your soul still keening from the lies and the loss.
When I first saw this article on Psychology Today, When Disappointment Feels Like Betrayal, I was skeptical.
And then I read it.
And I related.
When you have been betrayed, the pump has been primed to assume betrayal.
Even when it is just life with its usual ups and downs.
Be on alert for the monster but don’t go stabbing at every creak on the stairs.