Coping With Divorce – You Don’t Have to Do It Alone

A F.A.Q. Guide to the online course, Thriving After Divorce: From Victim to Victor.

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Why did you create this course?

When I was in the early stages of my own divorce, I was desperate for help and yet frustrated with what I found. Every resource seemed to only apply to people who were undergoing “good” divorces. And mine was anything but. I wanted to create something that would help people regardless of the specifics of their situation and that could help people learn from (and move on from) even the worst situations.

Who can benefit from this course?

Do you feel like you’re merely surviving in your life and you want to fully thrive? Do you feel like the end of your marriage is still defining you and you’re ready to create your own meaning? Do you still find that you are overwhelmed with emotion that sneaks up on you and you want to regain a sense of control? Do you know where you want to be but you feel stuck where you are (especially due to factors outside of your control)? Are you tired of using your divorce as an excuse and you’re ready to learn how it can be your inspiration? Do you need a helping hand or a kick in the rear (or both!) but you don’t have the time and/or money to invest in traditional coaching sessions?

Then this course is for you.

Although the term, “divorce” is used throughout, this course is beneficial for anyone who has been through the end of a relationship and feels as though they are not living as fully as they can.

What can I expect to get out of the course?

After completing the course, you will gain a greater sense of responsibility and control over your own life and happiness by realizing how much power you have to change your responses. You will develop tools and strategies to address the negative emotions that arise and build confidence in your own strength. Finally, you will be able to gain a greater understanding of how your divorce fits into your larger life picture and perceive the lessons hidden within.

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How is the course organized and what does it contain?

The course is organized into 12 modules. Each module consists of two video entries that provide background information, motivation and inspiration.

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The videos are followed by a Call to Action, which give you specific strategies to address the focus of the module. These are divided into three sections: Think (affirmations and quotes to help shift your thoughts), Write (a total of 7 journal prompts per module) and Do (easy-to-implement, concrete actions that put your thoughts and writing into action).

Why did you chose these 12 areas?

These 12 areas grew out of my coaching practice and interaction with readers. Over the past several years, I have found that these are the most common areas where people feel “stuck” after divorce.

Why do you include journaling in the program?

I am a strong believer in the benefits of journaling, especially when it is designed to encourage forward thought and action. The words we say to ourselves truly have power, especially when they are written. It is the bridge between thought (where it begins) and action (where the magic happens).

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There are two types of writing exercises in the course. The first is a journal following my three-section design: past/pain, present/problem-solving and future/hope. You are provided a prompt for each section that helps you purge the negative emotions, process your thoughts and leaves you excited about the potential. The second type of exercise is in the form of an unsent letter. You are provided with a prompt and the addressee for each one. It’s amazing how powerful it feels to express your thoughts to those that harmed you – even if the draft remains unsent.

Don’t worry if you’re not a writer. These are personal exercises and the benefit is in the doing, not in the craftsmanship.

Do I have to commit to a certain schedule or sequence?

This is the beauty of a digital coaching course – you complete what you want, when you want. Although the modules do build upon each other to some extent, they are completely autonomous and can be completed in any order.

How long does it take to complete the course?

To fully complete the course and participate in all of the exercises, it will take a minimum of a few months if you work at it consistently. Or, if you prefer, you can participate as the need arises. Again, the course is self-paced and personalizable to your needs.

Can you tell me more about the platform? Is it secure? Can I use it on my phone or tablet?

The course is available on Udemy, a well-known and well-respected teaching and learning platform. You can access the program at any time on your computer via your browser or through a free app on your phone or tablet.

Does my access ever expire?

Nope! You have unlimited access whenever you want!

I’m doing the program and I have a question. Is there support available?

Sure! You can either start a discussion on the course site if you want the input of the community or you can email me if you want my support.

You’ve put your life on hold long enough.

Start living today!

Why settle for good when you can be even better?

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10 Ways Your Divorce Makes You Even Better Than Before

I don’t think anyone ever responds to the childhood question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” with “Divorced.” Yet, for many of us, the end of a marriage does become part of our life story. I know I don’t have to point out the downsides of divorce to you; after all, they have a way of speaking for themselves.

But what about the upsides? What about the ways that your divorce, even if it was of the unwanted or malignant variety, has made you better than before?

Because whether you realize it or not, divorce (like many other life challenges) has changed you. Shaped you. Strengthened you.

Its harsh grit has left you polished. Its demands have made you grow. And the pain has left its mark. You aren’t the same person you were before. You’re better.

Read the rest at The Good Men Project and join the conversation!

Keep Calm. Karma Has Your Back.

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Karma. She’s pretty awesome.

It’s funny how time changes things. I used to have a driving need to “make him pay.” Then, I lost the need to be his judge and jury, but I still wanted to know that he faced the consequences of his choices.

Now?

Now, I actually want him to be okay. Far away. But okay.

But ultimately, what happens to him isn’t up to me.

It’s up to him.

Because when you do good, good has a way of doing back to you.

And when you do bad…

Well, let’s just say bad holds a grudge and carries a big stick.

 

For those who missed it last spring, here is my episode of Karma’s a B*tch, Till Debt Do Us Part. It’s available in two formats:

On iTunes for $2.99

On Amazon Instant Video from $1.99

It’s interesting to see the story played out in live action.

 

And while we’re on a karma theme, here are some great karma quotes. Enjoy:) And remember, karma’s always watching.

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