Part of what makes divorce so difficult is that so much of what is happening around you – and to you – is completely out of your control. It’s scary. It’s crazy-making. It’s infuriating.
And it also doesn’t have to be so bad. Learn how you can control your divorce.
Lessons From the End of a Marriage 
I had been verbally abused and gaslighted for several years when I asked for a divorce. I lost a job and had to discontinue school so had some debt at this time and no help from him. Since I was unemployed, I tried to get free counsel but he wouldn’t agree to the terms. He said I couldn’t do anything right and threatened to take me to the court where his attorney and the judge previously yelled at and interrogated me. Frightened by this, I ended up with no representation and signed papers at his attorneys office. He wouldn’t give me the house where I could have lived with my college age and younger child. I had to get a cosigner to get an apartment with my younger child a couple towns away. Apparently, he had all the help he needed, but if you have the finances and support you’ll get through this much better.
I WILL make it !! If possible I will be better than I was before, a better person, thanks for the reminder.
Brilliant words again, Lisa. The ‘fair’ issue really resonated in particular. I must stop believing the world owes me any degree of fairness right now. That will come once this door is firmly closed.