Identity Theft

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  1. nadine says:

    i have the same feelings for me, i have future days in my mind that are like a checklist waiting to be checked off my list of “Ties to My Former Life. The day when i finally pay off a joint loan with my ex, we took out to consolidate our joint debt right before things went way south. “hindsight is 20/20 as it was his idea, little did i know it was part of his “exit strategy” to another already involved with and also married, woman. The day when my credit is restored back to it’s former stunning glory. What’s worse than finding out about an affair? Finding out about an affair that also resulted in my former husband being fired and losing that income….on top finding out my husband was more stranger than husband. and last but not least, the day my youngest turns 18. It’s a day at the same time i don’t want to come but yet want to as having to communicate with this former husband, turned stranger turned, blame all the bad choices on the now “ex wife” hopefully will come to an end. My parenting ties with him will be cut as much as it is going to be, as our children turn from “minors” to adults.

  2. Alan says:

    I was fortunate my ex had created her own accounts prior to letting me know she was leaving. She just left me with the majority of the debt she created during the marriage.
    For me, the identity theft was that I gave up much of my identity trying to save our marriage – not understanding she had never been committed to it or me and was using the marriage to get my help raising her kids. Once her youngest completed college, she let me in on who she really was and that our marriage was a sham.
    It’s been almost 2 years and I’m still working to forgive myself for falling for her and losing so much of myself trying to save a relationship that was never reciprocal. I know I’ll get there and am hopeful the worst of it is behind me. Still trying to learn.

  3. That’s very inspiring, Lisa. I felt for you describing the quiz and not knowing the answers. What an awful feeling carrying around someone else’s mistakes, someone you trusted. Congrats on your new life!

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