Don’t Believe In Divorce? It Doesn’t Matter.

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  1. I never married with the notion of divorce being an option. I thought hard and long about the trust it would take and I was certain that he would continue to be the man that he was and sadly, much like yourself, I was wrong. He changed and he wouldn’t or couldn’t be a devoted and loving man. I was ashamed to get a divorce and felt like a failure in front of people that didn’t know why I truly left. I hate the stigma that comes along with divorce especially while I am still in my 20s- I assume people who don’t know the truth think that I didn’t try, was too naive, etc…and I hate that even though I know what I did was the right thing to do for me. We may be divorced but we strong as hell.

  2. MollyP says:

    so true 🙂
    the man I married believed in marriage, commitment, and working things out. and so did I. then 25 years later we realized that we had completely different definitions of what those things meant. what actually led to our divorce? his unwillingness to compromise in any way. here was a man who said “I love you” every day of our marriage, and at the same time made it entirely conditional. it was always, “I love you only if… (fill in the blank)”.
    it’s great if you have a partner who’s on the same page as you, and as a couple have the ability to work through things in a productive, healthy manner. but to say you don’t believe in divorce… unfortunately is really naive. as you mentioned above… it takes two to tango, and ultimately it takes two who want to tango together.

  3. Gwen says:

    True words, if one person doesn’t want the marriage to work, then it isn’t going to work.

  4. I agree with this article completely. It only takes one to end a marriage

    • Sure does. People don’t like to acknowledge that fact, however. It’s too scary to admit that one does not have control:)

      • That is true. Also a lot of books, and even therapists, will advise that you reflect on and accept your part in the end of the marriage. It is only then will you find peace. I grappled with that for a long time and then thought, ‘no’. I will take responsibility for my half of the marriage, both good and bad. However, the end of the marriage was totally his choice and therefore his responsibility. By that I mean that ALL marriages have strengths and weaknesses and problems. In a marriage that survives you work those problems through, and compromise. What we had in our marriage was no better, and no worse than other marriages that survive. What was different about our marriage was that ‘we’ were never given that chance to work through those supposed problems, because ‘he’ (one person) simply left. One person’s choice.

  5. Jamie says:

    Reblogged this on Holy City Haute and commented:
    “You may not believe in divorce, but if your partner stops believing in marriage, you’ll be forced to change your mind real fast.”

    Yep, that about sums it up. No matter how YOU feel, if your partner doesn’t hold the same views, there’s nothing you can do.

  6. Devon says:

    in this country when a true aspect of Jesus doesn’t believe in divorce…

    Who tests the spiritual influences of scripture?

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