An Open Letter to the IRS

12 Responses

  1. Susan says:

    Yeah Lisa!

  2. blogventer says:

    I love that you’ve written this letter. It’s easy to complain about the bad stuff, but it’s equally important to express gratitude and say thank you for the good stuff. You’re such an awesome example, Lisa! 🙂

  3. candidkay says:

    Gives me hope as I still struggle to fix 2011 snafus due to my ex. Tell me I’ll get there, girl!

  4. beachmama says:

    Until I read your letter I’d never heard of the Innocent Spouse Relief Program. Wish I’d known about this 10 years ago. I, like you, felt twice victimized by the court system. Could it be that family court judges are primarily male judges with a chip on their shoulders? Hmmm . . .
    I’ll go back and read your blog from the beginning . . . I am now remarried to a wonderful man and while I had to sell my house and need to rebuild my finances at 58 years-old, I wouldn’t change a thing. I learned what I needed to learn and am happy and in love ; ) Best of luck to you . . .

    • I was lucky that my dad found out about the innocent spouse program. It certainly isn’t advertised!

      I think the shortcomings in the court system go beyond the judges – mine was a strong woman who asked my husband’s attorney if his client was “psycho” (he could only shrug:) ). She ruled very much in my favor (as much as was possible) but the problem was that the court system had no way to back up the decree.

      I’m so glad to here you’re through it and happy on the other side. I’m there in most ways and the end is in sight for the financial rebuilding as well. It’s not a journey I would wish upon anyone, but the end results can be beautiful.

  5. Susan Cockel says:

    Thank you for post.

    I would like to share on this topic.

    My daughter can not afford a lawyer. We have one we contact when we get stuck. That would be the Financial Statement Form.

    Turns out Ex has a long term relationship with the IRS going back before the marriage. IRS is dunning my daughter for pre- marriage debt. Yes.

    Thoughts for those in same situation.

    1. Know the difference between “Innocent Spouse” and “Injured Spouse”.

    2. Know when to file with the IRS. I have done internet search. Really hard to get answers. Tax lawyer would know if you can afford one.

    After file for legal separation?

    After file for divorce?

    Some states don’t have a legal separation. So after file for divorce or after divorce final? Haven’t found this answer yet. I am going to ask HR Block because state and IRS are not user friendly when looking for answers to this simple questions.

    This what I can share so far.

    • stilllearning2b says:

      Good info! Thank you for sharing. The IRS definitely does not make the process user friendly. I hope the best for your daughter as she goes through this.

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