I used to think ‘move on’ was a pithy way to scold – after years of dissecting what happened and why I thought as I did and often in order to control something I blamed myself I start to realize it is like floating down a river in a boat and coming upon rapids and a steep waterfalls with more rapids till you are tumped stranded on a rock in the middle of the raging rapids – looking back to see how you could have navigated differently or better only helps to understand how ill prepared for the unexpected rapids – to go forward we are still hampered without adequate life skills but that is only because we are afraid – we do not want to drown or be tumped again and so we moan about being stranded on the rock while being afraid to get off the rock.
AMEN!!! Everyone says move on, move on. But no body tells you HOW to move on. 26 years and thrown away like a piece of trash.
I used to think ‘move on’ was a pithy way to scold – after years of dissecting what happened and why I thought as I did and often in order to control something I blamed myself I start to realize it is like floating down a river in a boat and coming upon rapids and a steep waterfalls with more rapids till you are tumped stranded on a rock in the middle of the raging rapids – looking back to see how you could have navigated differently or better only helps to understand how ill prepared for the unexpected rapids – to go forward we are still hampered without adequate life skills but that is only because we are afraid – we do not want to drown or be tumped again and so we moan about being stranded on the rock while being afraid to get off the rock.