There is no way to sugar-coat it; the end of a relationship is hard. You are mourning the loss of what was and the possibility of what could be. You may be faced with sides of your partner or even yourself that are strangers to you. You may be facing the fact that the person who swore to love and protect you was actually the one from whom you required protection. Your whole world and your place in it folds in on itself like some sort of mutant origami, only flashes of the old life still visible. In is this complete and total devastation, hides the power of a break-up. You can fold your new life into beautiful new forms. After the crying and screaming, of course.