“You have to wait one month for each year you were married.”
“It’s like riding a horse. The sooner you get back in the saddle, the better.”
“After divorce, you must stay single for at least two years to truly find yourself.”
I heard it all after my husband left. Yet none of it really felt right to me. I knew I wasn’t ready to start a new relationship immediately. Even the thought made me feel a bit ill. At the same time, some trite and trivial timeline didn’t resonate either. Who was to say that I didn’t need more than a month for every year or that I would be ready far sooner than the two-year mark?
The truth is that the time needed after divorce before entering a new relationship is different for everyone and, this is the important part, only you know when you are truly ready.