Why A Prenup May Increase the Chances of Divorce

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  1. Mary Lou says:

    Great points! I can see where a pre-nup is needed in older marriages where children from a former marriage and/or certain assets are concerned. I always felt, though, that a pre-nup kind of anticipated problems ……. setting up expectations of failure.

  2. NZ_ash says:

    Nope. A pre-nup is what made my separation sane. I don’t think it anticipates failure – it protects you where the law may not. I hated divorcing as I thought it was a failure in me – but having the pre-nip gave me a sense of grounding. It kept thing relatively civil – a sit was what we’d agreed when we were together and nit anticipating that this would happen. I understand it’s not for everyone but it’s pragmatic and forces you to talk about things.

  3. zombiedrew2 says:

    Another example of this is fear of being hurt. Often people build walls around themselves, to “protect” themselves from being hurt. After all, if you don’t let someone in and you never allow yourself to be fully vulnerable around another person, then they can’t hurt you as much, right?

    Unfortunately the mere act of keeping walls up minimizes the closeness and trust that relationships require.

    Often this very act of self protection is the thing that causes the relationship to fail.

  4. zombiedrew2 says:

    Hah, I would have to agree. I’ve had a number of times where I’ve read something on your blog and thought “I wish I had written that”, or there have been thematic similarities to something I’ve either written or am working on.

    Similar philosophies I guess 🙂

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