Is Your Divorce Malignant? Here’s How to Survive

When I was going through my divorce, others often felt the need to tell me about their own divorces. I heard stories of couples signing the paperwork and then going to have coffee. Some spoke of marriages that quietly faded and negotiations that barely sullied the mediator’s desk. I encountered women at the gym who whispered over sweaty shoulders, “Just wait until you get his money; it’ll all be worth it then,” as though a divorce was some get-rich-quick scheme I entered willingly. And all of this was years before the advent of “conscious uncoupling;” I think if I had caught wind of that phrase, I would have run off to some desert island where there are no lawyers.

If you’re facing a malignant divorce, see my eleven tips to help you survive on The Good Men Project.

Thank you for sharing!

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  1. AthenaC – This is my main blog now! But I kept up all my old posts at so feel free to check those out, too. This site is just what it says - a blog about nothing in particular. I am interested in EVERYTHING - theology, science, philosophy, photography, economics, gender relations, ethics, travel ... you name it, I'm interested in it. I write because if I don't, my thoughts will spill out and assault the poor, innocent people in my life. So instead I inflict my thoughts on the internet at large, because it appears to be equipped to handle this sort of thing.
    athenarcarson9 says:

    Oh my – I have clicked around your story a bit and I am shocked. I thought I easily had the most toxic, destructive marriage ever, but as I see more and more women telling their stories it is clear that I dodged a firing squad!

    Anyway, I know first-hand how much work it is to heal and to reshape yourself into a whole person, so it’s great to see you so happy to be where you are now.

    Internet hugs from a stranger,


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