Lies, Damned Lies and Intent

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  1. Susan says:

    It’s no lie! Reading your exchange with Recovering WS was difficult. I don’t know how you maintain your calm. I wanted to scream. But seriously….thank you for sharing a great year. I wish for you, a peaceful heart, the best of health and prosperity in 2014.

  2. Chaz says:

    In my experience, lying is quite often pain avoidance. When the telling of a lie is perceived to be less painful than telling the truth, we often lie. Anyone with kids is very familiar with this dynamic.

  3. there was a book published – a journal that was later compiled into book form – called “On Bullshit” by Harry G. Frankfurt. the author talks about the difference between lying and BSing. It was featured on “the Daily Show” a few years back and your post made me think of it again. Funny thing is, I’ve had a post brewing for a week or so now that talks about this very topic…

  4. There are also the lies of ommission, simply saying nothing at all. While these might not truly be lies they are the hiding of truths.

    By the way kudos for that exchange, your patience was inspiring.

  5. Lisa, I’ve followed your blog for some time now…and have just restarted a new blog site myself…I have a piece I’ve written about lies we tell ourselves that I will be posting soon…maybe you’ll come by and check it out! 😉 I’ve enjoyed following your story and appreciated all you’ve gone through and congratulate you on your successes over the past year (the show, marriage, growing followers, multiple publishings on Huffington, etc.) (long time ago used to post under mother2threekids)

  6. OMG I can not believe the exchange you had with that person on your other post. I never saw it when I posted my response before. Just goes to show you how many sociopaths/narcissist’s there are out there. After reading that, I would have to say he fit that category.
    If it wasn’t for reading your book and all the other blogs I am finding. I would feel so very alone. Each of our experiences are different and yet so many things are similar. I don’t wish this experience on anyone. And then to have someone come poking around and pointing fingers and placing blame for their infidelity on their partner. PLEASE! And the repetitive “meeting his needs” PLEASE! Again and again……what ever happened to confronting your partner with your needs and counseling if necessary? Selfish people.

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