I have developed a bit of mail phobia since my divorce; it has a tendency to bite me just when I feel relaxed. I got bit today.
I posted about my huge (psychologically speaking) win with the IRS when I was granted innocent spouse relief a month ago. It seems like I let my guard down about taxes a bit too soon. Today I received a letter from the state that the refund I was owed for 2012 will be applied to an outstanding balance (that I did not know about) from 2006, one of the years the IRS took away my culpability for. It’s so hard not to let the anger surge forth again. The dollar amount is not what bothers me, it is the fact that he still has not addressed his responsibilities and that I am still being asked to pay for his deeds two years after the legal divorce. It makes me want to stomp and scream, curse his name, and declare how unfair it is.
But none of that will help.
The reality is that it is my mess to clean up even if I didn’t make it. I just need to get my big girl panties on, be thankful for what I have, and move on.
After I visit the punching bag, that is:)