Pain is inescapable and inevitable, but it does not have to become a way of being. Recognize the pain, embrace it even, and see what it can teach you. Much as physical pain is often our body’s way of alerting us that something is wrong and needs addressing, emotional pain is the mind’s way of letting you know that there are shifts to be made. Your pain does not have to be your torturer; it can be your teacher.
Let Your Pain Be Your Teacher.
Lessons From the End of a Marriage 
Nooooooooo! Don’t want the pain! LOL