It Stays With You

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  1. I wasn’t with my betrayer long, (18 months) or married to him (thank God) but it stays with me, 6 months later I still have days where I can’t wrap my head around it. I hope you are healing.

  2. Abandonment is a hard pill to swallow, especially when veiled in infidelity betrayal as well.

  3. Barbara says:

    Oh how it does stay with you! I’m four years out from discovering the long term Double life of my husband of 27 years and 8 months beyond the legal divorce and still have many days of total unproductivity and PTSD flashes. A couple of ideas I try to implement are making a schedule and assessing and celebrating success at the end of the day and consistently reading from the bible. The celebrations of actually accomplishing tasks and the peacefulness of God’s words are helpful. Yet, I don’t see that the lessons learned will ever stop stinging. By the way, I’m over 60…I love the truthfulness of this blog! It’s been spot on with my emotions.

  4. Beverly says:

    “Hell is other people.” But if marriage teaches us anything, it’s that we can’t change other people. We can only change how we allow them to affect us. I know from exprience too that it stays with you. Thank you for always posting. As a newly separated, this helps.

  5. Laura says:

    My ex is still shocked my family wants nothing to do with him. He had an affair, with a licensed professional counselor, abandoned me and 3 boys after our celebrating our 18th wedding anniversary, moved to another city in with his girlfriend. They are still together which stings and it’s been 2 yrs. So much for the “it won’t last” comments. I have been through hell and back with his abandonment only the beginning. I feel like a body builder. I refuse to let his betrayal and devastation of our family snuff out my light. I slowly shine brighter each day. I sold my house we lived in for 10 yrs. and am moving in 2 days. I see this as another new beginning. I am free from years of crumbs, not being seen or heard and his betrayal only validates my unhappiness in the marriage. Keep moving forward, never give up, a new life awaits and it is bright and shiny.

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