The Surprising Way Divorce Can Affect You

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  1. Hit the nail on the head! Now I know it has a name 🙂 I’m over it now but at the time, I thought I was crazy.

  2. I have not crossed over into divorce yet (how about that term — crossed over?). I find myself dreaming about the weekends spent camping and mountain biking, how I am going to set up the condo that I want to buy, trying to figure out how I am going to handle dating or even if I will date. There is so much. I can see how obsesion would be easy to fall into.

  3. At the time of my divorce decades ago, I stumbled across a book, my memory says, was titled “Crazy Time”, that talked about that post- divorce mania. It was very insightful and helpful. I don’t remember the author— book may still be out there. Alert— if you look for it, read book description to be sure it is right one. Memory tells me there were other book(s) with that same title on totally different topics.

  4. ifonlymommy says:

    Your dating spreadsheet made me laugh and if I had time to date, I could totally see me doing that. Trying to control it all and believing I was. I got an extreme high from controlling what I ate and how much I didn’t. Then how much I could exercise. So unhealthy. It took me a while to realize what direction I was headed in and stop it before I wasn’t in control anymore. Running on empty and trying to control anything I could because I couldn’t control what happened to my marriage and family. Whew!

  5. Cassy says:

    I too am glad to be able to put a name on that year and a half. I quit all counseling and self-help groups I was attending because I was tired of talking and analyzing and ran miles upon hours upon miles, always training for the next race. Your term makes perfect sense. Thank you!

    • You are welcome:) It was the only word I could think of that described the intensity of that period.

      And I had to laugh how many other divorcing/recently divorced people I met on my races. Maybe we should start a new divorce-themed annual or touring race:)

  6. Yep you described me exactly after we split as well. From the running the weird obsession with dates and how many I was going on.

  7. Masqued says:

    Reblogged this on How Many Masks? and commented:
    Post-Divorce Mania? I can see aspects of this in me too. Great article.

  8. candidkay says:

    Oh boy. I think you’ve pegged a friend of mine. When I went through divorce, nothing was over the top. I took my time, figured it out, rebuilt a solo life. But she jumped right into a relationship within a month after her divorce and has kept going. You just put it in perspective for me.

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