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The Blame Game

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  1. rumourwriter says:

    Reblogged this on Life of Brian and commented:
    Blame is indeed a game we all like to play. We do it from childhood, however many of us never grow out of it. In my experience, those who lay blame come in many colours;
    1. The white – they have an overblown idea of their own perfection and must lord it over those around them. They are usually the types that feel it their god-given right to pass judgment on those of lesser ilk than themselves.
    2. The black – they put on blinders, choose a side usually based on who they know, and even though they are mostly in the dark about what really happened cast blame with extreme prejudice
    3. The green – secretly envious this type will lay blame to an innocent because in their mind they would have done much better and would relish the chance to show that
    4. The yellow – without spine, they only echo what they may have heard others say and even then only in the shadows
    5. The red – Hate spewing rhetoric falls like acid from the red’s lips even in good times they will find someone to blame. A well placed barb here, a deep sunken dagger there is what makes their day

    What is most unfortunate of all is that there is usually a little bit of those colours in all of us to varying degrees.

  2. Caterina Arends says:

    You are soooo right on with this post! I hope this gets lots of reading and passed on to others. This information is so critical and so important. I totally agree with what you are stating. The blame like that double traumatizes. Not good. It’s cruel in it’s impact, so undeserved and destructive to the person who is needing support, understanding and kindness.

  3. Juan Figuroa says:

    There is a destructive meme floating about that encourages blaming the victim. It goes like this: “There’s his side, her side, and the truth.” Sometimes, there aren’t “two sides to every story.” Sometimes, one person in a relationship is just the bad guy.

    Refusing to acknowledge that simple truth results in blaming the victim. “Maybe you provoked him into hitting you. Maybe she just couldn’t deal with your receding hairline and that’s why she had an affair.”

    Or maybe s/he is just a narcisistic sociopath. (Josh Powell, anyone?) Some stories simply don’t have two sides.

    • I think that one reason people like to think that there must be two sides is that it makes them feel safer in their own relationships. “As long as I do/don’t do (fill in the blank), my partner will never do those things to me.” The unfortunate reality is that some people are not operating from a place of integrity and that means others will be caught in their crossfire.

      Thank you for your response.

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