The journal I kept in those early months after he left is warped and torn. Not from age. But from the force of my pen.
I wasn’t angry.
I was furious.
Nothing about the situation was okay.
Nothing was fair.
And I wanted him to pay.
If you are fuming at the actions of your ex or the unfairness of the situation, these posts are for you:
There is something about divorce that makes everyone want to point fingers. If you find fingers are pointed at you or if you have pointed them at others, you’ll want to read this post about the blame game.
I was hoping to find justice in the courts. Instead, I found more frustration. Divorce courts don’t punish individual misdeeds; they punish the entire class.
Anger seeks a target. A powerful question to ask yourself – what would make it all okay? You may be surprised by the answer.
We tend to view anger as aggression. When often, anger is simply pain screaming to be heard.
Want to forgive but not sure how? Try Forgiveness 101.
Or, for a different perspective, here’s when you shouldn’t forgive.
Sometimes you have to let it all out. This is a test of the emergency rant system. This is only a test.
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Anger is a powerful, yet corrosive fuel. It moves you along, yet causes damage if you hold onto it too long. Ready to let go? Try this. It was a powerful shift for me.
You don’t have to do it all yourself. Karma’s got your back. She’s always watching:)
Lessons From the End of a Marriage 
Read your articles. Thank you. I have been helping my son go through his unwanted divorce and aftermath. It was his high school sweetheart and they were married for 15 years but were together from high school to their early 30’s. He is devastated but is working through the process. Do writing the letters really help someone heal? I did it when I got divorced but my son is reluctant to do that and is now sitting parked in anger. How can I help him get to another emotion? It’s been 7 months but his divorce was finalized this month. He won’t talk to anyone else so I want to be as helpful as I can be so he comes out the other end as whole. Thank you for listening.
That’s awesome that you’re there for your son. It has to be so hard as a parent to see your kid (even as an adult) hurting and not being able to fix it.
Writing is an incredibly powerful tool for healing, but it’s not the only one. Your son will need to find what works for him when he’s ready for it. Anger is especially resistant to being told to change.
Meanwhile, listen to him. Validate his emotions without catering to them. Encourage him to exercise, socialize and reconnect with any passions he has or had. He’s lucky to have you in his corner:)