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Lessons From the End of a Marriage

A “How to Thrive” Guide After Divorce

I Used to Judge

I used to judge. I’m not proud of it. But I used to judge those who stayed in abusive relationships. I criticized the victim for staying put while exclaiming that, were I ever to find myself in a similar situation, I would leave immediately. It always seemed so clear to me. So cut and dry.Continue reading “I Used to Judge”

Character Assassination

I didn’t like reading how many of you relate to being gaslighted. It’s one of those areas that I know for me is still tender. There is much un-probed because it hurts too much to counter often-good memories with the knowledge of the duplicity and lies. And I finally realized that the daunting task ofContinue reading “Character Assassination”

I Reject Your Reality and Substitute My Own

In my ex husband’s mind, why tell the truth when you can invent it? Why yell when instead you can quietly manipulate through gaslighting? In all of the pain after my ex husband left, there is one pain that stands out as more acute than the rest. After being arrested for bigamy and bailing out ofContinue reading “I Reject Your Reality and Substitute My Own”

It’s Nice to Be Important

Not long after we started dating, I accompanied my teenage boyfriend to his grandfather’s funeral. I had never met nor heard anything about the deceased; my first impression came from the pastor’s opening lines: “It’s important to be nice, but it’s more important to be important.” Surprised at the mutilation of the common quote, IContinue reading “It’s Nice to Be Important”

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