10 Things I Don’t Trust After Being Cheated On

1 – I don’t trust people that are overly affectionate or complimentary; I assume there is a motive to their flattery.

2 – I don’t trust it when people are too eager to proclaim that they would “never hurt me” and that they “are not the type of person” to do that. I especially don’t trust it when they use the words, “Trust me.”

3 – I don’t trust that permitted and known access to a person’s technology, friends, etc. means that there is nothing to hide.

4 – I don’t trust people that demonstrate a lack of courage (note: that is profoundly different than a lack of fear.) They hide rather than face.

5- I don’t trust in the security of “affair-proof;” no relationship is immune under the right conditions.

6 – I don’t trust stories when too many details are provided without prompting.

7 – I don’t trust things that seem too good to be true.

8 – I don’t trust it when people say they’re okay.

9 – I don’t trust words that are not consistently supported by actions.

10 – I don’t trust people who won’t admit to mistakes; they too-easily rely on lies to hide their failures.

 

10 Things I Trust MORE After Being Cheated On

 

1 – I trust my gut. So far, it hasn’t lied.

2 – I trust that there are good people in the world. People that value honesty and loyalty.

3 – I trust in people that admit their shame. Those grow in the dark and whither once exposed.

4 – I trust in my strength to handle more than I thought I was capable of.

5 – I trust in the power of starting over.

6 – I trust those that reveal their fears and then refuse to be limited by them.

7 – I trust that I am not reliant upon anyone else to make me happy.

8 – I trust in the potency of gratitude to shift the way I look at things.

9 – I trust in my worth and that it is by no means defined by how others have chosen to treat me.

10 – I trust myself enough to be open to the potential of being hurt again.