A Tale of Two Marriages

4 Responses

  1. What an encouraging read. I’m so glad you took the risk to trust again, and it has proven to be worth it 🙂

  2. CJ says:

    Funny how you mention the differences in your marriages. My only marriage of 25-plus years has been one where my wife has felt that I have just needed to relax and not get so caught up in trying to improve our relationship (I am the type that listens to the marriage podcasts and reads all the “how to have a better marriage” type books throughout our relationship).

    The irony is that she was the one who had the affair when the marriage started getting rocky and I was not reacting to life in the best possible way. I have always strived for — and longed for — closer intimacy spiritually, emotionally and physically knowing that it can be better if we actually communicate and try to work on ourselves and our relationship. But it takes two to tango and I’ve been, as David Bowie would say, “Dancing with myself” for the vast majority of our 2-plus decades.

    At some point, you just wonder when you should find a new place to dance with a spouse who actually wants to join dance with you.

    • stilllearning2b says:

      Reminds of the differences between having a growth mindset vs a fixed one. There’s only so much you can do when somebody has the latter and refuses to change.

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