Four Things You DON’T Need to Move On After Divorce

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  1. C.J. says:

    Very insightful. Thank you, Lisa, for the continued words of wisdom. I know I’ve expected more sincere, remorseful apologies from my unfaithful wife, but to no avail. Also the sense of justice/fairness game is an area that never will truly be vanquished in my soul if I can’t find a way to let it go. I like how you compare it to chasing a dragon.

    Right now I am just working on being the best me I can be and finding ways to work through the vast levels of emotions and pain. After four years, it seems like a never-ending process, but I know I need to keep fighting and rewiring my brain and heart into a new and better me.

    • stilllearning2b says:

      It really is rewiring, isn’t it? It’s like we have to find all of the shorts and frayed wires and ineffective insulation and replace it all.

  2. Beautifully written, thank you for sharing.

    Not getting justice is a hard one – sometimes it feels like if he doesn’t suffer, he got away with it. But at the end of the day? He suffers simply by BEING HIM – a miserable adultering abandoner. There is no worse punishment.

    An apology? I can live without – it would be empty anyway.

    Understanding? If I understood this, really understood it, I would not be the person I am. If this made sense to me, it would mean some not-so-great things about it.

    Closure…true…we don’t get closure. This will always leave a scar. And that is okay. There may never be time where you can put your divorce in a box and feel nothing about it.

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